Sobriety is so liberating. But it also triggers the things we’ve been running away from.
The wounds are raw. The humiliation is very real. We don’t know what we’re doing or even trust ourselves enough to make the right decisions. With these three tips to finding your worth in sobriety, you’ll begin releasing the emotional baggage and start feeling at peace.
Grab a cup of coffee or tea, get comfy, and get inspired to become a better improved version of yourself, beginning with your self-worth.
Before we get started, let me give you a quick intro- Hi! I’m Eva, the sober gal and Reiki master behind Cleen Carma. When I sobered up on 9/5/16, I did it without any support. Not even AA. I also unpacked a lifetime of trauma along with mental illnesses on my own. Now, I’m here to help you rewrite your story one breath at a time.
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GIVE YOURSELF VALIDATION
It seems so obvious that our worth comes from within. But if you’ve been indoctrinated to think approval comes from others, it isn’t that transparent. It’s the only way we know.
Giving yourself validation is also one of the hardest things to do. Because there’s a part of us that thinks being our own hype person is narcissistic.
It isn’t. Far from it. It’s learning your self-worth and value so you don’t fall back into repeated toxic cycles and behaviors.
Instead of dismissing it, acknowledge when you have a rough day. Allow yourself to vent to yourself by becoming the person you’ve always needed for yourself. And celebrate yourself the way you want to be celebrated. Do something nice for yourself just because you want to.
INVEST YOUR ENERGY IN YOURSELF
Do you have any idea just how powerful your energy is? People who are constantly taking it know, that’s why they keep coming back for more.
Our energy is invaluable. It’s also something we give so freely to others. We give our time when it’s time we don’t really have. We give emotional support when we’re breaking on the inside.
That doesn’t mean you need to be unkind. But it does mean you need to prioritize where your energy is being sent.
If you have a work project and are on a tight deadline but someone needs to vent for four hours about their day being ruined because they spilled coffee on their favorite shirt, pull that energy back.
Dedicate your energy to yourself. Chase your dreams. Pursue your goals. Go back to hobbies you walked away from or pick up new ones.
I promise you that you’re worth the investment. The more time you dedicate to yourself, you’ll begin feeling it too.
Energy is also our internal dialogue. Hebb’s Law- neurons that fire together, wire together. What you think about becomes self-fulfilling prophecies.
Energy is also:
- the stories we tell ourselves
- the way we speak to ourselves
- replaying conversations wondering what you could have said differently to the person who insulted you
- creating scenarios so you have the perfect clap back
- ruminating on why certain people are committed to misunderstanding you
TRY THIS:
Instead of reliving an argument that will probably never happen again or devoting time to solve a potential problem, give that time to your goals.
I guarantee you that your energy will shift and life will start working for you instead of conspiring against you.
SET BOUNDARIES WITH YOURSELF
From personal experience, my boundaries with others always failed miserably until I implemented boundaries with myself. Maybe you’re the same. So if you’re struggling with placing boundaries with others, begin from within.
Make it a standard that you’ll only allow self-compassion. Expect to be gentle with the way you speak and act with yourself.
How do you wish others would treat you? Start embodying those traits. If you want others to treat you with kindness and compassion, be kind and compassionate with yourself.
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If you feel like you’re stuck, that’s ok. It happens to all of us. It’s in those moments of stillness, we regain our balance. And if you feel like you’re failing, you’ve made it this far. You’ve quit drinking. You’re sober and proactively working on yourself. There’s no way you can fail.
In case no one told you today, I’m proud of you for showing up for yourself.
How are you finding your worth in sobriety? Leave a comment below. Also, please be sure to share this with anyone it may benefit.
I’ll see you soon…in the meantime, love yourself so much that even a Hallmark Christmas movie would be jealous.
