One of the worst things about gang stalking is that it comes from the people you admire and look up to. A part of you feels so foolish because at one time, you wished you could be more like them. But it was all an illusion. In the end, you witness their depravity and the lengths they’re willing to travel just to take you down.
There’s so much you have to heal and mourn- anger, betrayal, deceit, grief, sorrow, the death of what once was. It’s overwhelming and a lonely road because you have no idea who you can trust. You tried talking to people, only to find out that either they were backstabbing you or they flat out dismissed your experiences. Which is why I’m going to share with you 5 tips to overcoming gang stalking and flying monkeys.
Lately I’ve been writing posts that haven’t been sobriety related. I’m sober and help people who don’t resonate with AA to holistically stay sober but my life wasn’t defined by drinking. It was a lifetime of abuse that defined my character until I decided I needed to rewrite my story.
I was the scapegoat in a narcissistic home, which led me to becoming the proverbial moth to the narcissistic flame and taking a deep dive into the inferno of self-destruction. A part of the narcissistic abuse was dealing with gang stalking and flying monkeys, on and off for years.
Between childhood abuse, sexual assaults, physical violence, substance abuse, and mental illnesses- gang stalking was one of the most painful and heartbreaking to overcome. Because a part of you dies in that fire.
My heart goes out to anyone that has been through this. And if you’re currently going through it, you got this. I know it may not seem that way right now because the days are bleak but you’re going to keep walking through that fire. And when, not if, you come out of it, you’re going to come out of it stronger than hell itself.
The following tips are what helped me to pave a path in the darkness so I could find my own light. If you haven’t yet, grab a cup of coffee or tea, get comfy, and let’s help you find your power.
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LIVE FOR SUCCESS REVENGE
Until we learn to live for ourselves, success revenge is the next best thing. Plot out all of those success stories in your head- what you’re going to do, how you’re going to speak, what you’re going to wear, where you’re going to live, what your home looks like, etc.
If you even want to romanticize about how you’re going to rip everyone that betrayed you a new a**hole, go right ahead. It’s your story, you get to write the rules. Indulge. You’ve earned it.
When you’re ready to live for yourself, but don’t know how, start with the little things. The scent of lilacs in bloom, the sound of ocean waves breaking on shore, the warmth of the sun on your skin, that first sip of your coffee/tea. The little things begin adding up and when they do, it helps you to find the beauty in life.
BELIEVE THEIR ACTIONS
When people consistently show you they have malicious intentions towards you, believe them. No amount of apologies can ever redeem you being the sacrificial lamb to their debauchery.
Here’s the thing- the gang stalkers, flying monkeys, and ring leader turned their backs on you without batting an eyelash. They’re morally bankrupt, deceitful, and lack integrity, amongst a whole bunch of expletives. Those are NOT the type of people you want to know. They will only continue to bring you further and deeper into the abyss of darkness until you can’t find your way out.
I know it’s hard, especially when you love them and you’ve been conditioned to think you’re the problem. So, there’s a part of you that feels you have to atone for whatever they said you did. But all you end up doing is exacerbating being ashamed of your own existence.
VALIDATE YOUR EXPERIENCES
We’ve learned the hard way that no one’s coming to bat for us, let alone believe a word we’re saying. So you need to start validating the things you’ve been through. It doesn’t matter how petty or juvenile the words and actions have been, validate yourself. You know what you lived through.
No matter how much they gaslight, guilt, shame, deflect, or project- you know the truth. They are beyond petrified of that, that’s why they pervert your reality to satiate their delusions. Because truth is the only weapon that can destroy them.
If you want to speak your truth, all the power to you. I firmly believe that we should defend our own honor. But please, take it from someone who wasn’t once emotionally stable enough to understand this- don’t speak the truth until you’ve built up your mental stamina. You run the risk of falling right back down. Safeguard it until you’re ready. You’ll know when the time is right.
LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION
Vibes don’t lie. If you’re getting a feeling that someone’s lying or something feels off, listen to it. It doesn’t matter how illogical it seems.
These are the type of people who want you to find power in them so you don’t find it within yourself. So they’ll keep denying everything to the point that you think you’re the crazy one. Take the first step back to reclaiming your power by listening to your inner compass, not them.
The more you do this, the more the truth is going to reveal itself to you. It gets to the point that the truth will shine so brightly, that walking away isn’t even difficult. It just makes sense because you wouldn’t even want it any other way.
MOVE IN SILENCE
Heal in silence. Work in silence. Celebrate your victories in silence. Until you know who you can trust, you need to move in silence. If these people are as committed to destroying you as you think they are, they will stop at nothing until you break.
They’ll criticize, defile, mock, ridicule, and attempt to sabotage any possibility of you receiving your blessings. And if some of these people are into dark magic, it won’t be beneath them to place hexes on you. They’re deluded enough to feel entitled to what you worked your ass off for.
HAVE FAITH- trigger warning
Technically, this is the sixth tip. But I wanted to share with you a bit of what I went through.
The gang stalking got so bad that I became suicidal. I had people attacking me from all sorts of directions- my entire family, friends, family friends, even the legal system. I couldn’t prove anything to anyone about what was going on because I didn’t have any evidence. Just the invisible scars.
Everyone either turned their backs on me, kicking me when I was down on the ground, or turned a blind eye. I had nothing and no one. So I had one psychotic breakdown after another.
With each drink I took, I would beg and plead with God to let it be the drink that would make my heart stop beating. I also slept with a knife under my pillow, in case I woke up and had the courage to end my own life.
I can’t even really explain it, but a part of me understood at the time there was a reason this was happening. It was something from my childhood- I had a glimpse about 30 years in the future, where I was so happy. And I mean happy– not a care in the world and living life on my terms. So I started holding onto that vision from all those years ago.
Then the faith started building. And every time I wanted to succumb, I would hold so tightly in my mind’s eye what I saw when I was a kid, that I could feel the happiness. I could see the smile on my face. I could see what I had waiting for me on the either side of hell.
So when you feel like nothing is going right, lean into faith. Trust that the Universe/God has a reason for this madness. It doesn’t make sense now but one day it will. I promise you, it gets so much better. Better than you could have ever hoped for. Keep going.
I’ll see you soon…in the meantime, love yourself so much that even a Hallmark Christmas movie would be jealous.
