Living For Yourself After Trauma When You’re Sober 

Living For Yourself After Trauma When You're Sober

We’re fragile when we come out traumatizing relationships and/or experiences. Our wounds are so raw that the thought of living for yourself can be so uncomfortable. Especially when you’re sober.  Systemic trauma makes it worse. The long term abuse makes us sadomasochists. We’re the eager accomplice in our own debauchery to others while defiling ourselves.  […]

Showing Up For Yourself When You Quit Drinking

Showing Up For Yourself When You Quit Drinking

You may not know how to begin showing up for yourself when you quit drinking. That’s ok. None of us know what we’re doing when we get sober.  You’re also becoming someone you’ve never met. So you’re in territories you haven’t explored. This takes time to get used to. Some days showing up for yourself […]

What I Would Have Done Differently If I Were Getting Sober Again

What I would have done differently if I were getting sober again

Not that I would ever choose to do it again, but these are the things I would have done differently if I were getting sober again.  When I reflect on the past 7.5 years of sobriety (at the time of publishing this), it was filled with so much heartache, tears, anger, confusion. But there were […]

Rewriting Your Inner Truths In Sobriety

rewriting your inner truths in sobriety

You can become anything and anyone you want to be. That begins with rewriting your inner truths in sobriety.  We all have limiting beliefs, outdated stories, and self-sabotaging behaviors. We also possess the ability to break free from the things that hold us back.  It takes time, patience, and work. But, it’s also a long […]

How To Accept That You Can’t Drink Again

How To Accept That You Can't Drink Again

Acceptance is something we all struggle with- losing someone you love, the end of a relationship, leaving a place that feels like home. It’s the same concept when we quit drinking. So I’m going to share with you how I found acceptance in recovery and the steps you can take to accept that you can’t […]

How I Simplified My Sobriety Journey And How You Can Too

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When I had a date with fate and got sober on 9/5/16, I had no support system. Not even AA.  I didn’t trust myself enough to make the right decisions, lacked faith in my own ability to persevere, and didn’t have the slightest clue how I was going to unpack a lifetime of trauma.  There […]

Reconnecting To Your Mind Body Soul In Sobriety

mind body soul connection in sobriety

Recovery is a humbling paradox- in unbecoming ourselves, we become ourselves. It begins by reconnecting to your mind, body, soul in sobriety- to shed all the layers of who you think you are and come into remembrance of who you are.  The stories we’ve been told to believe about ourselves, if they’re toxic, lead us […]

How A Date With Fate Got Me Sober

date with fate got me sober

The man who I thought was the love of my life had recently broken up with me. I wasn’t lost or even just existing. I felt like a dead woman trying to climb out of my grave.  That breakup made me realize I needed to quit drinking. But I was so scared.  So much of […]

How A Breakup Was The Catalyst For My Sobriety

How a breakup was the catalyst for my sobriety

The moment our worlds collided, time stood still. Everything finally made sense- the heartbreaks, the tears, life. They all led to the person looking back at me. My intuition warned me not to pursue anything romantically with him. In true fashion, I acted in defiance.  How could I not? This was everything I’ve ever hoped […]

How I Stayed Sober Without A Support System (not even AA)

How I stayed sober without a support system, how to get sober without AA

In the past seven years, I’ve made a ton of mistakes and haven’t always handled sobriety with grace. But the thing that has remained constant throughout this journey of what we call life are the practices I’ve used to keep me sober. So, I’ll be sharing with you how I simplified my sobriety journey and […]