I used to look in the mirror and not even see life in my eyes. All the years of not being true to myself were reflected back to me in those moments. It was like the fire in me extinguished.
Slowly and gradually, (like, I’d take one step forward and 20 backwards) I began to feel the fire burn within me again. I needed to learn how to find my footing and ground into energies that were foreign to me along with energies I haven’t felt in a long time.
I had gotten so used to things not being great that I didn’t even realize the happiness and passion I used to have were gone. Nothing was dire, I just wasn’t me.
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Then the way I looked at myself and life changed. The things I thought were real were an illusion. So I began rewriting my inner truths.
I didn’t have a moment of spiritual and energetic combustion. It was about waking up each day and deciding that I was going to be happy on purpose– finding joy in the little moments and being intentional with my time and energy.
There were plenty of days I woke up and didn’t want to be happy. I just wanted to wallow in anger and frustration. So I would have fake arguments and tell off the people who betrayed me along with the ones who stood by watching, while doing nothing.
I’m not going to say it was a waste of time. Because it wasn’t. I believe everything serves a purpose as long as we’re willing to grow from whatever life throws at us. And those moments gave me closure when I had none.
It also taught me that we can heal while we’re working towards the future we want. We don’t have to be so rigid and need for things to be perfect before we strive for more or better.
In healing, we learn what we want. And when we manifest, we heal parts of ourselves we didn’t know needed healing.
Don’t wait to get the thing you want, don’t wait to be healed more, don’t wait for the dream home or dream job. No. Be happy right now despite not having the things you want.
Don’t delay life because you’re not yet feeling the way you want to feel. Start feeling the way you want to feel and life will match your vibration. Take a chance on yourself. Say yes to living, really living.
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Our quality of life is based on the quality of our thoughts. So think great things about yourself, think highly of yourself. Don’t even entertain self-deprecating humor, as humbling as it can be.
Be kind to yourself, treat yourself with respect, value your own opinion, speak to yourself like you’re a person worth knowing. Look forward to alone time like you’re someone you want to be around.
Think about how beautiful and magical your life is. Think about the elevated healed version of yourself as if you’re that person already. How would they show up? How would they react to someone disrespecting them? Do they conquer each day or do they wait for life to happen to be happy?
We tell ourselves that when we get what we want, we’ll change. We’ll be happier, we’ll think better thoughts, we’ll finally walk away from toxic relationships, we’ll build healthy relationships with ourselves, we’ll deepen our spiritual practices, etc.
We’ve all gotten what we wanted- the job, the relationship, the home, the thing that was supposed to make us happier.
And the only thing that’s changed was us raising the bar on which our happiness was contingent upon. Instead, change the way you think. When being happy on purpose becomes a habit, happiness becomes your default setting.
That coffee mug you loved when you first bought it- get that same excitement the next time you use it.
Your favorite meal- cook it or go to the restaurant you love. Eat it because you decided that you wanted to be happy instead of waiting for a special occasion.
The clothes you’re wearing, the phone you’re using, the couch you’re sitting on- at one point, these were wants and not yet manifestations. So have gratitude for it all. Express heartfelt gratitude for the things you have and the things that are making their way to you.
Play a manifestation game– look on the internet or go window shopping. The thing that catches your eye that’s out of your price range? Ask the Universe/God for the money to buy it. And dismiss any doubt about why you can’t have it. You absolutely can have it and you deserve it. So manifest like you know you’re worth.
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Create your destiny while keeping your heart open to fate. Don’t wait for life to happen because life is already happening. So, do you want life to happen to you or do you want life to happen for you?
At the end of the day, it’s not about the big spectacles- it’s the way we feel in each moment. Create moments that make you feel excited about life. Collect memories that make you smile. Reignite your inner spark.
I’ll see you soon…in the meantime, love yourself so much that even a Hallmark Christmas movie would be jealous.
