Soul Contracts And The Lessons We Learn

If you believe in reincarnation, then you’re probably familiar with soul lessons and soul contracts. But just to give a quick rundown because it ties into everything- before we reincarnated, we decided on what we would learn during our time on earth. We make agreements with other souls that we’ll help one another to grow and evolve.

When we reincarnate, the souls we have contracts with can show up as platonic or romantic relationships. And they show up when we’re ready to elevate.

Though, it rarely seems that way. It’s like we fall into this abyss of darkness, having to heal from trauma and wounds because sometimes, people were careless in their actions.

Then we rise. Slowly. It’s an incredibly slow and ungraceful rise. Sometimes, we’ve been defiled until our will is broken.

Somewhere along the way, we stumble upon spirituality. And it’s magic. It’s the only thing that makes sense when nothing else does. It gives us answers when we can’t find any. And it makes us feel alive in ways we’ve always wanted to feel, but somehow fell short of.

Of course, just like any other community, there are going to be people who probably don’t take the time to think of how big of a ripple effect their words will have. And just how impactful those words will shape someone’s reality.

Which ties into soul contracts. There are people in the spiritual community who say, “Your soul chose this. This is the life you decided upon.”

Then when they’re asked to explain what they mean, they give some vague explanation, “When you dig deeper into spirituality, you’ll see. You chose this. You need to wake up.”

It’s irresponsible for people to say that. And ignorant. Really ignorant because the answer is a little deeper than us choosing to suffer.

I know I developed a fair amount of stigmas and complexes because of this. I was already ashamed of my own existence for my entire life when I heard that sentiment. And because some people have a tendency to parrot what the masses are saying, I never even heard an alternative. It was the exact same words explained in the same way.

So, I ended up blaming myself for the way people treated me. And it took years for me to heal from that. Then things finally made sense.

Our souls agreed to learn lessons to expand our consciousness. We did NOT decide HOW we would learn those lessons.

“How” is the operative word. Our souls aren’t masochists. So, if you’ve been defiled, dehumanized, demoralized, or abused in any other way, you didn’t agree to those terms before you reincarnated.

It was free will that led to the toxicity and abuse. So, whoever we have soul contracts with, becomes the catalyst for our healing and growth. Their free will was why they acted the way they did, not because you chose to learn lessons through debauchery.

And yes, our free will also played a part. That’s not to place any blame on you for the things you’ve lived through. It’s when we look back, we realize the signs were there all along, how much we overlooked.

We just didn’t recognize our own strength and resilience in those moments. So, we stayed- to keep the peace, because it really wasn’t that big of a deal even though it was like the 100th time, because we were told we were too sensitive and we needed to toughen up, so a part of us thought it meant we needed to compromise our values and morals. Those are just a few of the reasons why we choose to stay in relationships past their expiration date.

But you didn’t choose to reincarnate so you could live a life filled with heartbreak and suffering. Your soul chose love, not hatred and fear. It just so happens that to get there, we need to rise above the challenges that make us feel defeated. And sometimes that means we have to travel down dark and often lonely and isolating paths before we can find the light.

Honor your soul contract to yourself by finding freedom from anything and everything that’s keeping you stuck. You don’t have to settle for the role others have assigned to you, at least, not when you can create a new one anytime you want.

And if you’re wondering if you honored your soul contract with the people who humiliated you, yes, yes you did. Just as they were the catalyst for your healing, you’re now their lesson.

I’ll see you soon…in the meantime, love yourself so much that even a Hallmark Christmas movie would be jealous.