Making Sense Of Why People Intentionally Hurt You

Sometimes you just need to make sense of why certain things happen so your heart doesn’t bleed as much. Hopefully, the following words help you to find a semblance of solace in the confusion and pain.

I don’t subscribe to the whole “hurt people hurt people.” No. Not all hurt people hurt people.

Yes, people have mental illnesses. But, we also can’t weaponize that to minimize someone else’s depravity. It isn’t empathetic, it’s cruel to the ones who have experienced it. It’s also why victims don’t speak up and why evil is alive and kicking.

If you’ve been on the receiving end of that line, know that isn’t an excuse to have been treated the way you have. It’s dismissive, especially when you can’t help but question if maybe you’re the one who’s to blame for everything. No, it isn’t you. And you will get through this.

There are people who hurt others simply because they find it amusing to see the pain they’ve caused someone. It gives them an illusory power. And the more they see how much someone is suffering because of their actions, the more they crave inflicting pain.

It’s a game to them. They want to see how far they can push you and how many people they can get to turn against you. The more people who join in on their charade, the more they know they’re good at what they do. And that knowing fuels them.

But that knowing also becomes their downfall. Eventually, that knowing turns into overestimating themselves. And their house of cards gets revealed for what it is- maybe not when you want it to, but karma has a funny way of working things out. It’s poetic.

They broke you because they were meant to. Not so you can stay broken, but so you can rebuild yourself, piece by piece. Even as painful as it was, and probably still is, you’ve learned incredibly valuable lessons.

And no, you wish you never had to learn them, but there’s also a certain type of wisdom and a strength that can only come with a heart that’s been forged in fire. Some scars may even still be tender to the touch, but it also makes you vulnerable in all the right places.

You will make it out on the other side. You’ve been through too much to settle for mediocrity. So, own your power. You don’t need to try harder, heal more, or be better. You just need to be you.

Your heart hurts. Of course it does. It’s been dragged to hell and back- kicked, beaten, and bruised. But, it’s time to close your heart to the ones who hurt you and open your heart to yourself. Tend to it. Nurture it. And follow your heart. It’s your inner compass, and it’s guiding you back home to yourself.

I’ll see you soon…in the meantime, love yourself so much that even a Hallmark Christmas movie would be jealous.