Love- the most powerful emotion of all that stirs and awakens bits and pieces of ourselves. For better or worse.
When it leads to heartbreak, the one that rocks you to your core, it can leave you in such a state of fragility that you question your very existence. We’ve all been there.
It hurts like hell. When all you want to do is stop the pain, you can’t help but feel it even more.
Which may lead you to want to perform a love spell on attracting your soulmate back into your life. Because you know the two of you belong together, so there’s no harm in accelerating destiny, right?
That’s where you may want to take a moment to pause and rethink doing a love spell on someone. But don’t worry. There’s no cliffhanger here. You’ll also be provided with tips on what you can do instead.
Rethink doing a love spell
Let’s get started, shall we?
You accrue karmic debt
This is the killer one for me because I’m a firm believer in karmic justice. So when you perform a love spell on someone, your debt is going to have to be paid back.
For every action, there’s an equal reaction. That’s both a universal and physics law. It doesn’t matter if you’re destined to be with them or not, it’s only going to slow down your progress.
And what’s even worse is that you’re opening yourself to being manipulated by someone else in the future. Something that will come to you to create destruction in your life because of one moment of weakness.
I’m not saying your intentions are out of malice or even that you’re weak for wanting to perform a love spell, but timing is everything. And with time, the answers will appear.
You may be in a situation where a break is needed so you can grow and heal independently and when the time is right, be brought back together. Or you’re supposed to meet someone in the future who’s more energetically and spiritually aligned with you.
The thing is you don’t know yet. And that’s ok. Take this time to lick your wounds and start becoming the person you aspire to be.
You should rethink doing a love spell because fate can’t be tempted
Yes, we all have free will. But that doesn’t mean we should abuse that Divine birthright. Because in the end, you’re not only altering the trajectory of your life, you’re taking someone else down a path that may or may not be meant for you.
Besides, no matter what happens, fate will always prevail. The unseen forces control what’s going on behind the scenes. Just because we can’t physically see it or even intellectualize it, fate will come knocking on our door when we least expect it.
Which means if you perform a love spell to win someone back, they may wind up being eclipsed from your life all over again. And having to go through two heartbreaks from the same person is really just adding insult to injury if you ask me.
You shouldn’t emotionally manipulate someone else’s feelings
This may sound brash and I definitely don’t want to come across that way. But at the end of the day, that’s what it is.
No one likes to be manipulated, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. It isn’t honest and all trust will probably be lost forever.
Not to mention, that nagging feeling lingering in the back of your mind- are they really with you because they love you? Or are they back in your life because you performed magic?
Yes, it’s tempting to want to bring someone back into your life. However, you wouldn’t want someone to put a spell on you to win you back.
That brings me back to the next reason why you should rethink doing a love spell when all hope seems lost.
Rethink doing a love spell because you wouldn’t want one done on you
Have you ever walked away from someone only to have them obsessively plead with you why the two of you belong together? It sucks.
Imagine if that person were to perform a love spell on you to get back with them. I’m sure you’d be irate beyond belief. I know I would.
You would probably be thinking if they loved you, they wouldn’t have done that to you. Because at that point, it isn’t love. It’s an unhealthy obsession. Again, I don’t mean to be crass.
Love is about giving yourself to someone without any stipulations and unconditionally without the expectation of anything in return.
It’s for the very reason why you’re in love with your soulmate that you need to accept whatever outcome happens. As much as it hurts to accept, it’s also where you’re going to find the liberation to heal your broken heart.
There’s a bigger reason for the heartbreak
I know how difficult it is to see the light at the end of the tunnel when all you can see is darkness. And love quite literally alters the hormones in our bodies, leaving us feeling cognitively dissonant when our hearts get broken.
So while you may not be able to intuit with profound clarity what the Universe has up its sleeve for you, there’s a reason why you had to go through the pain of a broken heart.
In the case of a breakup with one of my soulmates, it was for me to quit drinking and learn to become the love of my life. And it’ll probably be different for you. But you will know that there’s a lesson to be learned.
It’s not that the Universe is conspiring against you. Quite the opposite. Sometimes we aren’t learning our lessons (that was me) so they create “tower moments” to wake us from our slumber.
It helps us to grow, evolve, and transform into the people we aspire to be. And that would impede your progress if you take matters into your own hands, bringing me to the next reason why you should rethink doing a love spell.
Now that we’ve got 5 reasons why you should rethink doing a love spell, let’s move onto what you can do instead.
Surrender to the pain
It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasureMarquis De Sade
To truly enjoy life in all its beauty and magic, you have to experience the trials and tribulations. Because then you wouldn’t really understand what happiness is.
Which is why when you accept, acknowledge, and feel the pain you’re going through, it makes the process a helluva lot easier.
And I can tell you from personal experience the times I shoved trauma, heartbreak, and anger deep into the crevices of my psyche where I wouldn’t dare look, it caused unnecessary suffering.
We all grieve differently. Whether it’s healthy or not is a different conversation. But at the end of the day, the only way we can heal is to walk (even if it’s baby steps) through it. Not by ignoring it.
Allow yourself to cry your eyes out. Give yourself permission to cry until you pass out. Feel into all your emotions with every fiber in your body. So you can rise like a Phoenix from the ashes.
I’m so guilty of not having trusted the process for the majority of my life, but when I look back on past experiences I deemed to be bad, they were all learning curves. And you know what? NOTHING ever panned out to be worse than my anxieties thought they would be.
Once I started to put more faith into the Divine, my life changed in ways I only dared to dream about.
Faith will propel you to heights that you once thought were unimaginable. Which is why even if you feel like you can’t have any faith in yourself, place it into the Universe.
Allow them to be your cheerleaders in this journey of what we call life. Because they will exceed your wildest expectations. Including helping you to heal from a broken heart and bringing in that one person who stirs your soul.
And that brings me to the next reason why you should rethink doing a love spell.
Rethink doing a love spell by asking yourself the difficult questions
Sometimes we get so engulfed in pain and suffering, that we fail to dig deeper. There’s nothing wrong with that because we absolutely need to go through the healing process.
But there’s times when we aren’t asking ourselves the questions that could very well be the antidote to our healing. Which is why when you take the time to do some introspection, it will help you to work through your heartbreak on a more prolific level.
Some questions you can ask yourself are:
- Do you really love them? Or do you love the idea of love?
- Would you truly be happy with them? Or are you trying to escape the pain?
- Do you love them more than yourself?
- Did you break your own heart for the sake of being in a relationship?
Deepen your connection to yourself
The longest relationship you’re going to have in your life is with yourself.
Take the time to build a relationship with yourself. Learn about all the quirks and idiosyncrasies you possess and adore those facets. Nurture the bits and pieces you deem unworthy so you can stand confidently in who you are. Learn to enjoy your own company through solo dates so you become the person that doesn’t need a relationship to feel complete.
Because when you do those things, you’ll be so f*cking proud of yourself for building an indestructible internal foundation. One you worked your ass off to build for none other than yourself.
And you know what? It’s nice to treat yourself like you’re the best thing since sliced bread.
Do rituals dedicated to healing from heartbreak
Do NOT do energetic cord cutting. I know there are so many resources out there promoting this notion.
Here’s the thing- energy cannot be created or destroyed. Only transformed. That’s the law of thermodynamics. Not some made up concept.
Which means when you attempt to cut the cord, nothing you want is going to come out of it. Ever propagate a plant and it grows back stronger than before? That’s what happens with cord cutting. You’re only giving the energy more space to grow.
What you can do is transform the energy (from grief to joy, sorrow to happiness, heartbreak to confidence, etc.) or if you’re being energetically violated, send it back to the sender. You’re doing no harm in sending energy back because it was never yours to begin with.
Light candles, work with herbs, take baths (water is an amazing energy cleanser) and meditate your way through your broken heart. Or create something different and make it an intimate act between you and your heart space.
Rethink doing a love spell through heart energy exercises
The human heart is pretty fascinating. Not only does it pump blood into every part of our body, it has the ability to store emotions, feelings, and memories (SOURCE).
Which means heartbreak is very real. However, it also means you have the ability to heal your heart space through energy exercises.
You can check THIS post out on how to do it.
There you have it…why you should rethink doing a love spell on someone and what you can do instead.
I hope this helped you to see a different perspective on your situation.
As my dad used to tell me, “the sun will rise tomorrow.” It will for you too.
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I’ll see ya soon…in the meantime, love yourself with all of your heart.
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