Ready to awaken your destiny with some simple yet powerful ways to heal in recovery? I sure hope so because you’re getting a few tips on taking a timeless approach to sobriety.
I’m gonna make it as jam packed for you as I possibly can without overloading your brain with information. Because this is about giving you digestible pieces you can start implementing right now.
By the end of this post, you’ll learn:
- Acceptance: how to accept yourself in recovery.
- Honoring your trials and tribulations and when it’s ok not to.
- Nourish yourself: how a simple flip of the script can be monumental for your recovery
- And it wouldn’t be complete without an exercise you can do right now to start your healing journey.
So you can rock your recovery, but of course.
We want to streamline this and make it as simple as possible. (Hence the title). Because life is already difficult. Sobriety shouldn’t be.
What healing in recovery boils down to is getting back to the basics.
That means we need to recondition our thought processes to rewire ourselves for success. So we can live life like we’ve never lived it before.
You know- like when you imagine that carefree version of yourself strolling the cobblestone streets of Europe carrying a straw tote filled with a baguette, a bunch of lavender, and all the artisanal cheeses you can fit.
Ok, maybe that’s just me, but I’m sure you have some idyllic scenario like that playing in your mind right now.
That all starts with healing. Because when you heal, there is absolutely nothing that’s going to stand in the way of you and your sobriety.
I’ve been there
By Jupiter, do I get it. When I sobered up over 5 years ago, I had nothing and no one. You couldn’t say I was at rock bottom because I had to climb out of my own grave.
I was so scared of making the wrong decisions, didn’t have faith or trust in myself, let alone any idea how I was going to survive myself.
But I also made it my mission to become the love of my life. It took a brutally honest reflection of myself loaded with uncontrollable tears while learning to embrace the fragmented pieces of myself.
That’s what I’m here to help you with. And hopefully, inspire you to create your destiny.
Enough about me and why I’m here. Let’s get you started in your healing journey, shall we?
3 simple yet powerful ways to heal in recovery
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Recovery isn’t just about not drinking. There’s so much more to it.
For starters, it’s about accepting that your love affair with drinking is one of the most toxic relationships you’ll ever have. Unrequited love, at that. (What a blow to the ego, right?)
It’s also about reconciling from the past so you can learn to stand firmly rooted in your own power. And when you can’t find acceptance in the person you used to be or the actions you used to take, recovery becomes chaotic and complicated.
Something you don’t quite know how to grasp or even gain control of. That’s ok. We’ve all been there. Myself included.
Here’s the thing:
Read that again if you have to. Because it made the world of a difference for me when I came to that realization years ago.
I used to disparage myself for not being “healed” or “advanced enough” in recovery. But the thing is we all have trauma that leaves indelible marks on us.
Those psychological scars are eternal. So it’s ok if you still feel the pain from years ago. However, at some point, suffering needs to cease to exist.
There’s a fine line between remembering and wallowing. I’m guilty of the latter so absolutely no judgement from me.
The sooner you accept that there’s fragmented pieces of yourself, or you’re not “normal” according to society’s warped standards, or you don’t resonate with the mainstream approach to recovery, the quicker you find inner peace.
Try this exercise:
- Take a piece of paper and pen.
- Get comfy.
- Ask yourself what you haven’t accepted yet.
- Acknowledge whatever surfaces. Anything that comes up is an opportunity for you to heal from. Not to torment you.
- Sit with it. It’s ok if you feel some discomfort. Don’t push yourself too hard either. You want it to be uncomfortable. Not psychologically harmful.
- Check in with yourself. Feel where it’s bothering you in your body.
- Write everything down. Dive into it.
- When you’re done, safely burn that piece of paper. You want to burn that bad boy because it’s an act of catharsis (you’ll thank me later💜)
Depending on what surfaces, this may take more than one time before acceptance happens. BUT (huge emphasis on the but), this takes time. And if you start now, you’re one step closer to healing.
When you learn to accept that you’re not as whole as you’d like to be, you can take a deeper dive into your healing journey.
Ironically, it’s when we admit to ourselves that we’re broken, do we begin to become whole.
Which is what the next step is all about.
Honoring is one of the most simple yet powerful ways to heal in recovery
I get it. That humiliation hangover is far worse than all of your previous hangovers combined. Especially when you don’t know how to process your emotions.
Which is why you don’t bite off more than you can chew. Start with the laughable times.
For me, it was when I was at a wedding and fell flat on my ass when I was drunk dancing in front of about 200 people. EVERYONE saw it.
I’ve never danced in public from that moment on. I’m sure you can empathize with why.
Honor the broken pieces and embarrassing parts of yourself. Because I can tell you from personal experience, it’s in the serrated edges we find what makes us whole. It’s also in the darkness where we shine the brightest.
Which means when you start to embrace both your perception of good and bad, it’s no longer going to impact your life in a way that’s detrimental to your psyche.
This needs to be elaborated on this because I don’t want you to think you have to honor every horrific thing that’s ever happened to you.
I’ve dated two of my rapists. While I will most definitely never honor that, I learned to embrace how those experiences have shaped me into a much stronger person who always stands up for myself now.
I used to be the most passive person, petrified of ruffling feathers. Those experiences taught me how to speak up for myself these days. While I may not always display tact or decorum when doing it, I will always vocalize my disdain.
So, you can see it’s not about honoring the traumatic experiences. It’s about honoring the resilience you’ve built from them. And laughing off the embarrassing moments.
Let’s move onto the last tip of these simple yet powerful ways to heal in recovery.
You’re gonna have good days. You’re also going to have days you wish you never had. Fortunately and unfortunately, that’s how the cycles of life work.
How you show up for yourself is what matters more than anything. Not the days you had.
Because at the end of the day, sometimes you’re all you’ve got. So it’s time to start lifting your own spirits when your will is breaking. Hold yourself when no one else is. Refill that half empty water glass so you always have a full glass.
A ridiculously simple way to heal in recovery is to flipping that script.
Here’s an example:
You wouldn’t truly know happiness if you didn’t experience sorrow. Just as you wouldn’t know pleasure if you didn’t experience pain. And you wouldn’t know love if you’ve never hated.
See how when your perception of something changes, you feel more alive with optimism?
Give yourself a moment to see how you can rewrite a new story. You’ll feel so much better.
Take the good, the bad and the ugly and create a recipe of hope, joy, and happiness. Because you deserve it.
There you have it…3 simple yet powerful ways to heal in recovery. Now that you’ve got a few tools in your arsenal of sobriety weapons, you’re well on your way to namaslaying your recovery.
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See ya soon…in the meantime, love yourself with all of your heart.
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