Spirituality and Sobriety

Spirituality and Sobriety

Quitting drinking is such a scary and difficult feat.

The normal and mundane tasks become a hardship when you know you have to say sayonara to the booze. It’s a scary path to learn how to navigate because of the stigma placed upon addictions in society. You’re not sure how or even what to respond when you get invited out for drinks. You don’t know how you’re going to occupy your evenings and weekends. You don’t even know how to live life without alcohol.

And that’s ok. Probably not what you wanted to hear. But, guess what? There were so many things in your life you had to learn for the first time at some point. Living a sober life isn’t any different.

The fact of the matter is life gets difficult, whether you’re sober of not.

Your sobriety journey isn’t complex or complicated. It’s only as difficult as you make it to be.

I know because I was in your shoes at one point. So fearful of what my future had in store for me as a sober person. It sucked. When I look back at my early days of recovery, I see I had absolutely nothing to worry about. But I attribute my success to spirituality.

Which is what this post is all about today- how to incorporate spirituality into your sobriety journey.

Before I get into some tools to aid you, I’m going to give you a little background about my own journey.

The journey of hell

When I quit drinking over three years ago, I didn’t have anyone to rely on for emotional support.  My entire family had turned their backs on me.  I was much too ashamed to tell my friends what I was going through.  Having tried AA and outpatient rehab in the past, I knew they weren’t the right modalities for me.  So I relied solely on divine faith.  

There were days that I didn’t even have faith in myself. So I would ask the Universe to supply me with faith and hold my hand in the recovery journey.  

The power that culminated within just by asking for help from a force greater than myself is indescribable.  No words can ever do it justice.  That force- whether it be spirit guides, angels, masters, etc, showed me a strength from within.

A power filled with infinite potential.  

After admitting my defeat to alcohol, my soul was reborn.  It was instantaneous. There were no expectations for any outcomes. I surrendered all of me. Sure, anyone can do these things when they choose to stand behind their convictions, but it was different having survived myself.  I was able to conquer anything.  

Allow the inner voice to be your compass

It was the first time in my entire adult life I was processing emotions as a sober person. I didn’t like having to sequester myself from civilization but the journey needed to be solo.

Because I was always easily influenced by the external world, I continuously defied and ignored my intuition.  Getting sober as a lone wolf forced me to listen to the inner guidance.  If I didn’t listen, I would have drowned in the tsunami of my inner dialogue.

But it ran much deeper than honing in on my intuitive abilities.  It  was about trusting me enough and encouraging myself- to explore my shadow side, do the inner child work, learn tarot, learn astrology, and incorporating divination tools into my daily routine.

It will always be a recovery journey.  Not just from alcohol. Past trauma, past burdens, past ways of doing and being all encompass the healing work.

Spiritual Sobriety

Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t. Enter with an open mind and you may surprise yourself.

MEDITATE

This is so simple but can also be challenging in terms of shutting out the chatter of your mind.  With consistent practice, you’ll get the hang of it.  All you need to do is start with 5 minutes a day in silence with your eyes closed.  When thoughts travel into your mind, allow them to come in and then release them.  Allowing the thoughts to come in will increase the control over yourself.  

But it’s also important to let them leave and to not wallow in those thoughts.  It’s about tapping deeper within yourself to build your intuition to bring peace.  My meditation sessions have gotten so amazing that I feel they are by far the best highs I’ve ever had.  Travelling to a parallel reality while completely sane and sober is bar none the greatest experience you will ever have.  

Use meditation as your main tool in your spirituality and sobriety journey. You will not be disappointed by how much you evolve just by not allowing your thoughts to control you.  

SPIRITUAL BOOKS

There are so many esoteric books out there that it’ll be easy to start searching for what resonates with you.  If you’re looking to heal ancestral karma, cut energy cords with others, learn about how the moon can impact us, it’s all sold in bookstores.  Anything you want related to the metaphysical can be found.  Start with one and you may find that you’ll just keep on going.  Getting sober is about getting connected to spirituality on some capacity and books are the perfect gateway for it.

YOGA

Yoga is not just about buying the new fad in yoga fashion, that’s consumerism.  It’s about the union of mind, body, and soul.  Taking even 20 minutes a day out of your time to connect with your body will be such a sense of calm and zen that you’ll start to incorporate into your routine on a daily basis.  If you’re not sure which class to take or are intimidated by it, try out YouTube.  There are so many videos on there that you’ll definitely find one that fancies your taste.  Yoga is a great remedy for boredom instead of reaching for the booze.  Don’t just do the asanas- study yoga.  It’s all an encompassing tool for spirituality and sobriety.

DIVINATION TOOLS

When I first got sober, I relied so heavily on learning how to use divination tools.  Because I was learning something foreign and it’s become such a passion of mine, that I help my friends and family with divination tools for guidance.  And that’s what divination tools are; they’re meant to be for guidance, not for predictions.  Tarot cards, oracle cards, pendulums, crystals, and runes are really great places to start with.  And it keeps you so occupied, you won’t succumb to drinking out of not knowing how to pass your time.  It’s also a given that divination tools go hand in hand with spirituality.  It’s time to incorporate them into your sobriety journey.

SPEAK TO THE UNIVERSE

I use the word Universe as an umbrella term, but its whatever resonates for you.  This may sound silly to speak to them, but it works wonders, especially when you feel that you don’t have a support system.  You learn to ask and with that, you’ll learn how to receive.  You learn how to find the guidance from a spiritual perspective.  You learn to connect with a power that’s greater than yourself.  

When it becomes a daily routine, you’ll see the drastic changes in your own life.  Allowing yourself a reprieve from your own mind and worries by speaking to the Universe is such a great way to have in your spirituality and sobriety journey.

While the journey isn’t always peachy keen, the faith and belief in a power greater than yourself beckons you in the direction of salvation.  It’s up to you to be a slave to the past or a warrior of the present by reclaiming yourself.

This path teaches you the wisdom of needing to suffer in order to realize how unnecessary suffering really is. The paradigms that once defined you are now dogmas of the past.  

When you start to tap into the realm of the esoteric, you can and will become much more empowered to tackle your addictions with a brand new mindset. 

Once your mindset changes, your life takes on a whole new form and the alcohol addiction merely becomes a thing of the past rather than something that defines you.  

Try these simple techniques of introducing spirituality to your sobriety journey and witness how much you and your life transforms.  

Be sure to share this anyone that may benefit from it and let me know in the comments below what you’re going to try out!

Stay zenspired and see ya soon!

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My alcoholism in review

my alcoholism in review

My alcoholism in review. I’ve spoken about it in bits and pieces, not divulging too much. That stems from a fear pop vulnerability. I don’t want anyone to see what used to be my life. But I know someone needs to read this so here it goes.

If you’re struggling and need a few words to act as an impetus to aid you towards your journey of surviving yourself, this may help.  After all, its through others pain that inspire us to push forward.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been raped.  Not because blackouts were the norm for my entire adult life, but because I lost count.  What I can tell you is that I dated two of my rapists.

Why?

Because I hated myself.  

I hated my life.  

I hated living.  And through some sick and twisted perversion, I thought that I could attain love from others- even if it meant dating those who sexually assaulted me.

What I can also tell you is that I’ve been arrested three times.  Once was by my mom because she thought that I needed to learn a lesson that only jail time could teach me.

I’ve attempted suicide on a few occasions, been hospitalized for alcohol poisoning, put on suicide watch (the irony of this is those weren’t the times I attempted suicide), court mandated to rehabs, had family and ex-lovers intervene in my calamitous behaviors- all to no avail.

I’ve lost jobs, humiliated the f*ck out of myself, and lost relationships with those that I cared so deeply for.  But nothing mattered enough for me to quit drinking. What I loved more than anything was to get drunk- so that I could feel nothing and yet feel everything.

Through all of the ordeals, I attempted to quit drinking and tried to limit it to an “acceptable” amount only for it to get worse as time passed.  The more I tried to find a reason for getting sober, the more I fell into the abyss of my own darkness.  The more I kept saying that I finally hit rock bottom, the deeper the grave I was digging for myself.

I didn’t see a point in living. 

 I didn’t care about living. The pain of living was insufferable.  Finding joy had became obsolete.  It was a lost cause.

I wasn’t worthy of happiness.  Love was too good for me so.  I didn’t deserve living a life that I wanted.  At least that was what I had kept telling myself my entire adult life because that’s the way I was treated as a child.

My biological father was an abusive alcoholic who’s version of fun used to be throwing me against walls while he was in an alcohol induced fit of rage.  When him and my mom got divorced, things didn’t magically get better.  They got worse.  My childhood existence was me never being good enough, my English never being good enough (I spoke 5 languages as a child and English isn’t my mother tongue), I needed to try harder and push harder.  I needed to be perfect.  I had absolutely no concept that perfection was unattainable so kept striving for it only to be consistently led to disappointment.

Psychologically, the damage had been done.  

I was broken and damaged.  

But, no one knew.  No one could ever know.  I needed to build a fortress around myself so that I could be in self-preservation mode.

So, alcohol came into my life.  I felt confident, sexy, alluring, and witty.  Well- until I didn’t.  It also gave me the moxie I needed to speak up for myself, stand up for myself, and defend my own integrity.  Alcohol provided me with the solace and sanctuary I needed from my past and from my own mind.  It gave me the comfort of pain.

That’s where I went wrong- the detour that I took.  I didn’t take the time to sort out my limiting beliefs and negative self-talk.  Or even work out the kinks of my own mind.  I relied on a substance to be my guiding force through life.

I tried therapy for many years to overcome my psychological struggles with no success.  It was always the same questions and statements.  

“You must be in so much pain.”  

“How did that make you feel?” 

 “Why don’t you try taking this medication?”  

After singing the same old song and dancing the same old dance, I got exasperated and gave up on therapy succumbing to the notion that I was perpetually fucked by life.

Things changed about three and a half years ago when the man who I thought was the love of my life shattered my heart in a thousand pieces.  That breakup changed me on a cellular structure.  It was so brutally painful that a part of me died with the breakup.  Low and behold, it was the part of me that needed to die.

The heartbreak forced me to see just how pervasive toxicity was in my life; how toxic I was.  

But, it also took me to my destiny.  I now work as a recovery coach and energy healer to help those who are struggling with addictions by traveling the spiritual path.

Soon after the breakup, I realized that my path to salvation wasn’t through others, but that I needed to be my own guiding light.  It was an epiphany- I needed to cultivate a loving relationship with myself because the longest relationship that I was going to have with anyone in my entire life was myself.  So, it was about damn time that I started to learn how to enjoy my own company.

Before I could attempt to quit drinking successfully, I needed to find my own heart centered motivation and be my own reason for quitting.  Everything else naturally fell into place when the time was right.  And it can for you too.

It took another few weeks before I actually mustered up the courage and strength to quit.  At which point, I relied solely on divine faith and used the Law of Attraction.  But, I did it.  It wasn’t easy but it was only as difficult as I made it.

If you’re struggling to get sober, you can find it within yourself.  If you’ve been dealt a shitty hand, take charge. Be the dealer.  Give yourself a new hand.

Dig deep into your heart to find your love- the love that you’re so worthy and deserving of to get out of your own living hell.  Be your own true love.

Be your own magician.  Create heaven on earth for yourself and those around you.

Life is magical but you have to believe in magic.  You can read about bringing more magic into your life here.

See ya soon.

In the meantime, stay zenspired!

❤️❤️❤️,

Eva

Need some motivation to get sober?  Create a sober board

Need some motivation to get sober?  Create a sober board

motivation to get sober

Motivation to get sober can seem rather daunting…I know because I’ve been there myself.

Struggling time after time to get sober is a battle in of itself.  Feeling your feelings without the help of alcohol only makes it worse.  Sometimes making it not worth it to sober up for good.

Coming from someone who quit over three years ago, I can tell you that sobriety is so worth it.  You get to be an active participant in your life rather than watching life whiz right by you.  

You become an upgraded version of you. A person who actually enjoys waking up in the mornings while looking forward to conquering your days.  Not to mention, remembering what you did the night before because you have a clear head acts as a huge motivational factor.  

Not only do you feel your emotions on an amplified level, but they’re ten times better.  Things that you never knew could happen for you actually start to come into your life.  Your life becomes a living reality rather than a nightmare.  

But, that’s not why we’re here today.  Today is dedicated to you getting to the first step of your sobriety journey.  The beginning of a brand new life; a brand new you.  All you need is a little motivation to get sober.

motivation to get sober

Maybe you’ve tried ten times to say sayonara to the booze or maybe you’ve attempted it 100 times.  Whatever the count is makes no difference.  What counts is your willingness and determination to quit drinking.  Sometimes that may not even be enough. What you need is the impetus to give you a push in the right direction.

If you can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel, you’re blinded by the abyss of your own darkness.  It doesn’t have to be that way anymore.  At least it won’t be with this super fun tip to get your creative juices flowing.

When you find yourself attempting to constantly quit drinking, that you start to question if you’re an aberration because you keep relapsing, this is definitely the motivation you need to get sober.

You can implement one minor action step to drastically alter the course of your life. 

Start with visualizing what you want your life to look like by creating a sobriety board.  I’m sure you’ve heard of a vision board. This is the same concept with the exception that this is solely dedicated to your sobriety.

It’s so simple to create one and it’s free, which is always better.  The added bonus is that it only occupies a couple of hours of your time. It’s not too much time but it’s also just enough time to keep you away from the booze. 

Before your brush this off and resist that this may not be for you, keep reading.  

Our conscious mind is operating at 5% of the time whereas our subconscious mind is working overtime at 95% of the time.  Our conscious mind is the creative mind while our subconscious mind is the habit mind. What we’re going to do is bridge the gap between both minds with our creativity to establish new habits.  

I’ll give you an example. Postponing your sobriety for the next day to find yourself repeating the same habits is because you’re operating from your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind doesn’t believe that you can quit drinking so you keep perpetuating the same self-tortuous cycle.  

That’s your subconscious mind at work because it’s the dominant mind. Which means all you have to do is change your habits to create a new lifestyle.

A sobriety board can be the motivation you need to get sober.

I’m not proclaiming that a sobriety board is the cure for any addiction. What I’m saying is that it will help you on the road to recovery if you give it time. Stay determined with enthusiasm to get sober.  

Positive thoughts aren’t just the fad du jour; they’re a need if you want to ensure success in your journey of sobriety.  

Let’s get started, shall we?

First step

I’m stating the obvious by saying this, but do this when you’re sober.  Being inebriated won’t help you keep up with the momentum of your sobriety.  Enough said. 

Second step

Put some thought into how you want your life to look like as a sober.  Not what you don’t want.  Putting what you want will only reaffirm your commitment to yourself towards sobriety.  

By placing on the sobriety board what you don’t want, you will actually attract more of what you don’t want.  That’s because the Universe doesn’t acknowledge words like no, can’t, won’t, don’t, do not want,  etc.  

In other words, positivity is the only language that the Divine speaks.  Getting fluent in this will help you with your sobriety board and your life.

Third step

Place pictures of anything that fancies your taste on the board.  It can be quotes of motivation or inspiration, the dream vacation that you’ve never taken, pictures of your kids and/or pets, pictures of hobbies that you’ve been wanting to pick up but never did.  Whatever is going to inspire you and bring you joy, put it on the board.  

Once everything is to your liking and placed on the sobriety board, have the board where you will always see it.  Preferably somewhere in your bedroom so you can see it first thing in the morning.  

Also taking a picture of your board and using it as a wallpaper on your phone will help you.  If you see it before you even get out of bed and are constantly seeing it on your phone, then you’ll be reprogramming your subconscious mind.  Remember, that’s the habit mind.  

If you consistently see the board with the intention of getting sober, you’ll get yourself more motivated for your brand new life.  

Remain in a good mood while you’re making your board.  

Our thoughts create energies which in turn becomes our reality.  

If you’re begrudgingly cutting the pictures and pasting them onto the board, chances are that your manifestation won’t come to fruition with ease.  However, if you remain upbeat and optimistic while creating your sober board, then this will come towards you with grace.

Fourth and last step

Have fun doing this!  Take your time and enjoy the moment.  Relish in all the good you have in your life.

Alrighty, there you have it.  Some motivation to get sober with a super simple and effective tip. It’ll get you in the right mindset to start slaying those demons of yours.  

Remember, this isn’t a cure to the addiction- merely an action to take towards the road to recovery.  This can work for you if you allow it to.

If you know anyone that can benefit from this, be sure to share it with them.

See ya soon.

In the meantime, stay zenspied!

❤️❤️❤️,

Eva

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Psychological addictions and substance abuse

I personally believe that those of us who suffer from alcoholism and/or drug addictions have a few or myriad of other addictions. Psychological, that is.

They can be anything from- an addiction to pain and suffering, feeling of unworthiness, not wanting to be loved, feeling incapable of being loved, negative thinking, worrying, the victimization of yourself, etc.

No one was born an alcoholic or drug addict.  Even if someone’s mom did drink during pregnancy- yes, the baby is born wanting alcohol, but the feeling dissipates with time. The need for drugs or alcohol ceases to exist.

The addiction(s) developed throughout the years by nurturing the addiction. The operative word is nurturing. Some part of us needed to provide support to ourselves that was lacking from our external environment. We just went about it the wrong way.  

In giving ourselves that safe space, we turned to the drinking and drugs as a form of solace and comfort.  That sanctuary, unbeknownst to us at the time, became our living hell.  But, it also provided us with a place where we just knew things were going to be better. 

After all, we didn’t have to live in our reality.  We had the opportunity to alter it and find a parallel universe where we didn’t have to be us.  We didn’t have to live the lives that we lived.  We didn’t have to be the people that we were.  We could be anyone- so why not be invincible and full of courageous moxie?!?

That’s where the trouble starts and doesn’t end unless you choose for it to cease.  But, at that point, we’re so far gone into the abyss of addiction, that we’ve forgotten how to live life sober.  

And feelings and emotions?!?  Well, “f*ck that” we say.  We don’t want to be burdened with anything that is going to stand in our way.  The problem is, what other way is there?  

It’s never served anyone to get annihilated. 

It doesn’t have to be a life of despair.  Unless that’s what you want.  It’s time to start your own inner revolution to be the best damn version of yourself.  And that means saying sayonara to the booze.  And when you do, the clarity comes.  Before you can gain a new perspective, you need to go back in time.

When we were children, we were indoctrinated with a set of paradigms that altered the trajectory of our lives- eventually leading down a rabbit hole of addiction. The great thing is that these so-called paradigms are nothing but dogmas. Dogmas are fallacies. It’s time to create a new truth.

What were you taught as a child? 

That’s the only question that you have to ask yourself, at least for right now- because you’ll come to see why you have the addictions you carry within yourself.

Take stock of your addictions…not the obvious tangible problems (drinking and/or drugs) that you’re facing, but your psychological addictions that are affecting the substance abuse. Take a few minutes or a couple of hours to look and tap into your own psychology. It will make the world of a difference in how you view yourself and your relationship with drinking or drugs. 

When you can witness what the other addictions are, you have the ability to no longer utilize drinking or drugs as an act of escapism or coping mechanism. Because you’re facing your inner demons head on. You’re taking accountability and ownership of yourself. That’s the first step to conquering the addiction.

This is not to say that once you heal yourself from within, you can go and party your ass off and be ok. Far from it. What I’m saying is that there are deeper root causes that contributed to our substance abuse struggles.

It doesn’t matter if you have a plethora of addictions. Hell, I did. And I still battle some psychological addictions after over three years of sobriety.

What matters is how honest you’re willing to be with yourself. Even if it’s painful, take inventory. It’s ok. That pain has been repressed for too damn long. It’s time for it to surface so you can breathe a breath a fresh air.

Here’s your opportunity to rewrite your narrative. What do you want it to be?

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