Whether you’re a weekend warrior or a binge drinker, if you want to sayonara to the booze, then this post is for you.
This is a question I get asked so often. Truth is, there is no one answer fits all. Just as not every diet works for everyone, one solution to quit drinking isn’t going to work for everyone.
While I had personally tried attending AA meetings and outpatient rehab, those modalities didn’t work for me. Many people attend AA meetings religiously because it works for them though. There are various books written on the subject and I’ve heard great reviews and success stories, but those didn’t work for me either.
I’ve always been intuitive and knew that it would happen in my early 30s when the time was right for me. And sure enough, that’s the way it played out. I’m not by any means saying that the time has to be right because it will never be the right time. What I mean by my version of the right time is that through my own destruction, I was able to visually play out what my future would look like if alcohol were to stay in my life.
While some people have their entire lives fall apart before their very eyes as a catalyst to quit drinking, mine already had. Having been arrested, getting raped on several occasions, going through numerous black outs, I never could muster up the strength to give up alcohol. Because I thought that it gave me strength. Until it became my kryptonite.
No matter how many times I had try to ween myself off of alcohol or quit cold turkey, I kept going back to it. Most of the times, it was with a stronger vengeance.
It was exasperating to feel so weak. To feel so disempowered.
But hating who I had become was even more crippling. However, I just couldn’t figure out how to quit. Then it all came like a ton of bricks.
I got a sign one day and never looked back. That was a little over three years ago.
For me, quitting drinking was an inner resolve so powerful and strong to quit drinking AND standing behind those convictions. It was about building a relationship with both myself and the divine. It was about cultivating a loving relationship with myself. It was about learning who I am as a sober person. It was about learning to become the person that I always aspired to be. It was about not giving a fuck what others think about me. It was about breaking down my paradigms. It was about being reborn. It was about having a second chance at life.
Once you quit drinking, your entire life changes…for the better. You become this person that you never imagined you could be. But, I’ll save that for a different post. Right now, we’re here to talk about how to stop.
There are so many ways to stop drinking. But for the sake of not wanting to overwhelm you, I want to keep it simple with three steps. If we keep it easy, then it becomes easier to navigate the plethora of emotions that are sure to surface once you make up your mind to quit drinking.
Let’s get started!
It was about relying on divine faith. On the days that I didn’t have faith in myself, I asked the Universe to supply me with it. On the days that I didn’t think I would be able to make it through the day, I took it minute by minute. On the days that I was depressed and suicidal, I prayed. Prayed for a better today so that I could have an even better tomorrow. On the days that I was consumed with hatred, I meditated for love so that I could give love to others.
If you’re apprehensive about this, I can tell you in that surrendering to the divine made my detox a hell of a lot easier. In fact, it was the easiest detox that I had ever encountered. I didn’t have cold sweats or hallucinations and slept like a baby. While the anxiety was somewhat high, it was far more manageable than the past times that I attempted to quit drinking. I’m talking about placing ALL of your trust into the Universe, angels, spirit guides, fairies, source, higher power, God, Jesus, whatever resonates with you. When you do, the powers of the divine forces aid you in such a way that is miraculous. Your worries dissipate, you have this innate knowing that things are going to be more than ok, you start thriving instead of surviving.
Along with having faith in both myself and the divine, establishing a loving relationship with myself was vital for my sobriety. It may be different for others, but one of the key components to alcoholism for me was a lack of self-respect and self-love. I had always felt the need to validate my existence with having a beau by my side. When I got sober, I took a long ass break from dating. Not to swear off men. But so I could learn how to start enjoying my own company. And you know what? It worked. Things that I have always wanted to do but ex boyfriends wouldn’t do, I found myself doing. Taking ayurvedic cooking classes, visiting museums, luxuriating myself in a spa for a day, getting dim sum whenever I wanted, reading books when I wanted to, and travelling solo. The person that you’re going to have the longest relationship with in your life is yourself. So, you might as well start with building a healthy and loving relationship with yourself.
Ask yourself introspective questions
In questioning your modus operandi when it comes to drinking, you’ll gain so much insight about yourself. Which will only benefit you for both the short term and the long run. Getting deep and honest with yourself will garner you with the epiphanies for the much needed clarity to overcome the drinking. This is where the raw vulnerability appears, which does sometimes get mistaken for rearing its ugly head, but it’s where the truth is found. Below are a few questions to ask yourself. Feel free to write them down or just to reflect on them. If you have any other questions that you’d like to ask yourself, go ahead. There’s no right or wrong answer here. This is what you need for your own journey into sobriety.0
Ask yourself why you don’t like yourself being sober.
Ask what is it about alcohol that makes you feel more powerful and alive that you feel you can’t get while being sober.
Ask why you feel there is a deep psychological need for the alcohol.
Ask yourself if you truly love yourself.
Ask why you refuse to give it up.
There you have it…3 ways to quit drinking one and for all. These have been super effective for me in my own recovery journey and if you apply it consistently, I know it can work for you too. You can quit drinking for good. You just have to believe in yourself and your capabilities. You’re so much more powerful that you give yourself credit for.
Please feel free to share this post with anyone who can benefit from it. If you’d like to answer the questions below in the comments section as your own journal, by all means, do it!
Stay zenspired and see ya soon!